Mentality of different kind of MP on rape victims in Malaysia situation as solution

KUALA LUMPUR: Rape victims can have an opportunity to lead a healthy and good life if they marry their rapists, Tasek Gelugor Member of Parliament Datuk Shabudin Yahya told the Dewan Rakyat today.

According to him, girls aged between nine to 12 years old are "physically and spiritually" ready for marriage.

“They reach puberty at the age of nine or 12 and at that time, the physical state of their body is already akin to those 18 years of age.

"For a wife who was raped, if she can marry (the rapist) she would not go through such a bleak future.

"At least she has someone who can become her husband. So, this will be a remedy to social problems," he said while debating the Child Sexual Offences Bill here today.

He said this when objecting an amendment to the bill which was proposed by DAP's Kulai MP Teo Nie Ching who wanted the bill to be amended to also spell out the invalidity of child marriages.

The proposed amendment was voted down and the bill was subsequently passed with no major changes.

In explaining further the reason for his opinion, Shabudin pointed out that it is also not fair to assume that a person who committed a sexual offence will continue being a bad person.

“Maybe he repents, or regrets. It is better to have people who regret rather than people who do not regret.

"So in this case, let us not put an assumption that the person will remain bad. (Marriage) can be an exit clause for this problem,” he said.

The former Syariah court judge was defending existing law which allows minors to be married off as long as their parents or guardians seek permission from the Syariah Courts.

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I cannot believe such MP can suggest such thing! Are you for real? Have you been rape before? How can a child been raped and will be happy married to the rapist the rest of her life? Are you NUTS!! You suggesting force her to live in hell when she think someone who is adult will protect her and harming her further after been raped.

She is a minor, need to be love and learn to think to know what is right and wrong, learn to be strong woman with guidance.

Caning as punishment for Children

"Radziah, who has three children, said she did not use corporal punishment to raise them, but used negotiation and justification instead.

She said parents often denied a child’s request for something, without explaining why.

“It is a matter of negotiation between parents and children. Don’t just say no to a child without a valid reason. When you reason with children, they will listen to you.

“However, this process must be instilled in children in the early years, otherwise it will be difficult to make them conform to acceptable behaviour,” she added.

Radziah said parents could still be strict with their children without resorting to caning.

“For example, they can maintain eye contact with the child when telling them not to do something and then justify why they should not be doing it,” she added.

Parent Action Group for Education (Page) Malaysia chairman Datin Noor Azimah Abdul Rahim said it had never been in favour of corporal punishment in schools.

“Corporal punishment is the old way of thinking. Research and studies have shown that there is no benefit,” she said.

The mother-of-four said there were other, more effective ways of disciplining children."

http://www.thestar.com.my/News/Nation/2015/01/26/Court-caning-of-minors-may-end-Ministry-clarifies-that-parents-and-teachers-not-affected-by-proposal/

I think it is how an adult cane a child and what is the reason the child being cane. It is quite common but it is getting less parent caning their children or teachers canning their student.

What I am against:

Some parents/adults just caning children each time they feel the child done something wrong as thinking it is the fastest method to discipline or educate a child. This is call abuse and being lazy parenting.

School grades not their parent expectation: 

This is common reason where some "KIASU" (sore loser) parents just cane their child non stop eventhough the child crying in pain when the child not performing well and getting average grades in school. Think caning will solve the child school grades instantly when the parent never even bother to spend their own time to teach their child. This I have seen quite common and this is I'm so against. 

Teachers who love to cane/abuse

During my school time, I seen some teachers who love to cane or beat student with slight reasons they got. They really got so minor mental issue or having stress in personal life but they might vent out to their students. Not sure whether this is still happening such scenario. However I been cane fairly during my school time by unreasonable and reasonable minded teachers. 

Reasonable to be cane: 

When I was not paying attention to my teacher when she was teaching, she pinched me so hard but did not cause any internal injury. After that I really paid full attention to her teaching as I'm scared of her pinch as her nails also quite long. But I know all she wanted was me paying attention to her class.

Also when children are too misbehave or done something against what adults has told them not to do but still never listen, Definitely telling the child prior the reason he/she will be cane before physical cane lightly on body areas where do not embrass them in public. 

I also have encountered some incidents where I was punished in school with not justified reasons where I do feel I should NOT be cane or punish at all. I do still remember the teacher who punish me for such stupid reasons.

Caning as punishment can be good and bad. But it is really depend on who is the person punish and how they punish is important. 

However children are growing up faster than our generation. Caning as punishment should be the very last resort, not the fist resort to educate a child. Nuture, not punish as the foundation of bring up a child.