Friends

A strong friendship
Doesn't need daily conversation,
Doesn't always need togetherness
As long as the
Relationship lives in the heart
True friends will never apart.

TRUST and emo

Lesson learnt where trust is broken too severe, no way it can amend.

If someone claim it will never ever happen again, it is highly doubt in trusting the person word by mouth. A person can swear and promise like it is he or she depend on the trust but action speak louder than words. When broken too frequently and repeatly and saying sorry will not repent it.

Even the person may confident it will never happen, when you know it will happen again and again. Don't ever try to put any hope on the trust will fix anymore, as you only in illusion. People don't change, need to accept this.

1) Will you accept someone who hack your personal information back into your life and requested to tell your information if you want to give the trust but why on earth should I give trust to a person to hack my stuff? Do I have the right to be mad and angry? Pretend it is nothing right?

2) Will you accept someone who threaten to kill you and want to bring you down till you are humiliated by your peers when the person under anger mode? but then...after cooling off, stating it just emotional talking. When you have hurt someone feeling, saying sorry will not able to retract your words back. As it has imprinted to the person feeling and mind how much shock and sadness need to endure.

3) Will you accept someone who feel you need to be control as you are too carefree and not conservative enough to his expectation. Chatting with a guy is assuming you wanting to hook up with the guy when you just had a brief chat with the friend.

4) Will you accept someone who telling you are hurting him or her most of the time and insisting you only thinking about yourself when you have been trying hard to voicing out the issues and looking at both side when he or she only look on their own pain but the other party also facing pain by themselves without others knowing at all?

5) Will you accept someone who you keep on arguing with weekly without miss. and try testing you with questions and answers but when you have given your answer and opinion, the person feel you are telling lies and make you feel like you are FAT liars. Trying hard to make you a villain.

6) Who's informing your family, you need to taken care by the person as I who don't know how to respect myself in front of men. and will only leave me alone when I'm married. Well.....I'm married now...why you still so controlling? do u have the right over me actually?

7) Why insisting I must always tell everything, no secret from me? You already betray the trust and a liar who do not keep secret. then come back and sorry as just being too emotional.

8) Why always keep asking whether I'm truly a friend? to you? Can I be trusted? Will/are you being honest? Insist must every single information about me to you. Well...it is not an obligation to tell you everything actually. It is a right of each individual, sue me if you can. You betrayed and curse me so many times using what I tell you. I'm a fool here.



What would you do? is not tiresome? Giving up is the best thing as the damage is too severe till I have no energy to salvage anything from this.

Happiness comes from within ourselves. if someone tell you that you only can be happy when the person give you happiness then you really cheating your self. why?? the feeling comes from you whether you decide to be happy or sad, you only able to control the emotion! Stand up and be brave.

Trust

Trust is a simple word, yet it is complex in meaning toward each individual

2 questions:
Have you put your trust to someone but they betray you once or repeatly?
Who can you actually trust?


So how trust really works? Some able to keep the trust, but not many people have integrity to treasure the trust given to them.

Trust is defined as "reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence."

You can emotionally love someone, but not trust them.  

(It is distrastrous for any type relationship)

You can trust them, but not emotionally love them. 

(It can be called a healthy frienships and any good relationship of business)

When you trust a person, you believe that they have your best interest at heart.  They wouldn't do something to hurt you for the fun of it, or for selfish gain.  You rely on them.

You earn a person's trust by consistently proving yourself to them.  You show them that you will not use them or take advantage of them.  You will not abuse their love or their generosity.  You will think of them before acting.

Re-earning a person's trust is done in the same way, except it take amuch longer period of time.  People are very different as to how easily they'll trust others -- some have been seriously hurt in the past and hesitate to trust again.  Others are very "trusting," even of those who don't deserve their trust.  No matter the individual, you earn and re-earn people's trusts through reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence consistency of character -- you prove that you are trustworthy by your deeds.

There is no way to assure a person that you are trustworthy outside of your actions.  Broken trust can take years, even decades to repair.  It's a very sensitive, and even awkward, time for the two people involved.

Here's the key: If you are the person who has broken another's trust,you have no right to expect anything from them, especially trust.  You can only prove by your actions, words, and kept-promises that you are now on the "straight and narrow" and have no intention of straying again.  You cannot hold it against them if they search your life for flaws and wrongs -- you earned their distrust.  Hard work, patience, perseverence, and consistent proof is the only way to regain the trust you don't deserve.

True, it is not easy to trust someone anymore when broken trusts done repeatly. It is really damaging to the person mind and mentally as constantly hurting and trying hard to give trust the person repeatly previously but never appreciate the trust given each time the trust broken. Repair is hard when things are so broken in tiny piece.

Everyone probably did broken someone trust before, however how one person frequently abuse the trust given is something we need to ponder. Trust is just a word, but it is a lot of effort to gain a person trust. Rushing a person to give the trust back, it is something the other person dread facing.

Who can you actually trust?

Yourself only as you should learn from the past and know what is best for you

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