Trust

Trust is a simple word, yet it is complex in meaning toward each individual

2 questions:
Have you put your trust to someone but they betray you once or repeatly?
Who can you actually trust?


So how trust really works? Some able to keep the trust, but not many people have integrity to treasure the trust given to them.

Trust is defined as "reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence."

You can emotionally love someone, but not trust them.  

(It is distrastrous for any type relationship)

You can trust them, but not emotionally love them. 

(It can be called a healthy frienships and any good relationship of business)

When you trust a person, you believe that they have your best interest at heart.  They wouldn't do something to hurt you for the fun of it, or for selfish gain.  You rely on them.

You earn a person's trust by consistently proving yourself to them.  You show them that you will not use them or take advantage of them.  You will not abuse their love or their generosity.  You will think of them before acting.

Re-earning a person's trust is done in the same way, except it take amuch longer period of time.  People are very different as to how easily they'll trust others -- some have been seriously hurt in the past and hesitate to trust again.  Others are very "trusting," even of those who don't deserve their trust.  No matter the individual, you earn and re-earn people's trusts through reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence consistency of character -- you prove that you are trustworthy by your deeds.

There is no way to assure a person that you are trustworthy outside of your actions.  Broken trust can take years, even decades to repair.  It's a very sensitive, and even awkward, time for the two people involved.

Here's the key: If you are the person who has broken another's trust,you have no right to expect anything from them, especially trust.  You can only prove by your actions, words, and kept-promises that you are now on the "straight and narrow" and have no intention of straying again.  You cannot hold it against them if they search your life for flaws and wrongs -- you earned their distrust.  Hard work, patience, perseverence, and consistent proof is the only way to regain the trust you don't deserve.

True, it is not easy to trust someone anymore when broken trusts done repeatly. It is really damaging to the person mind and mentally as constantly hurting and trying hard to give trust the person repeatly previously but never appreciate the trust given each time the trust broken. Repair is hard when things are so broken in tiny piece.

Everyone probably did broken someone trust before, however how one person frequently abuse the trust given is something we need to ponder. Trust is just a word, but it is a lot of effort to gain a person trust. Rushing a person to give the trust back, it is something the other person dread facing.

Who can you actually trust?

Yourself only as you should learn from the past and know what is best for you

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